Anger is one of those many experienced human emotion. There is nothing wrong about feeling angry. However, the actions/behaviours associated with anger can put you or the other person at risk.
Anger in many situations begins with feelings of annoyance leading to frustration and at times extends to intense uncontrollable feelings of rage. There is physiological changes also occur as a result of anger. This might include increased heart rate, tensed muscles, and blood rush.
When people are angry, they often display angry behaviours including the following;
- Aggressive behaviours: yelling, name-calling, criticising and even physical violence towards people or objects.
- Passive aggressive behaviours: Silent treatment, refuses to communicate and ignoring.
Anger is also considered as a secondary emotion, in which anger can be developed from the primary feeling of annoyance, frustration, stress, unfairness and injustice, sadness, hurt and grief. Sometimes people keep things bottled up for a long time without addressing the issues assertively and this accumulated stress can make them feel like losing control and they may resort to angry outbursts to gain relief.
Anger is body’s natural response to threat/fear. It produces ‘fight’ response in our body when triggered by a threat to survive danger.
Anger is a problem when it interferes with your ability to function effectively as a responsible individual in the society. Problematic anger can cause trouble at your work, social life, parenting, intimate life and with the law.
Some signs of problematic anger include:
- Feeling angry a lot of the time
- Feeling like you have no control over your anger
- Expressing your anger to people who you are close with
- Thinking that you have to be angry to get what you want
- Your anger makes your body hurt
- It takes a long time for you to settle with your anger even the triggering event has passed
- Feeling anxious and disappointed about your own anger
- Your anger affects situations that are not related to the activating event
- Resort in substances to reduce the feeling of anger
- People raise concerns about your anger at work and personal life
- Worried that you might hurt someone close to you badly because of your anger
- Easily getting involved in arguments and road rage
How anger management counselling helps?
Problematic anger can pose risk to you and others. One of the real struggles with anger is, at the time when you act on your anger it feels ‘so good’, however, this ‘so good’ feeling of relief can create long-standing issues of guilt and even leads to trouble with law and, hence, acting on anger is not a healthy solution due to its long-term detrimental effects on the individual.
In anger management counselling, you get an opportunity to express your anger in a controlled way, which gives you an opportunity to release some of the underlying painful emotions. This, in fact, assists you to deal with the issues that make you feel angry. Bottling up anger can lead to developing excessive pressure on you and can later explode with anger outbursts or uncontrollable release of anger in a violent way. Also, the bottled up anger may transform into depression, anxiety and even create medically unexplained pains and aches in the body.
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Talking about the anger and addressing the long-standing issues that may cause the anger helps with reducing the feeling of anger. In addition, there are strategies that you can practice by identifying your early warning signs of anger before it gets worse.